Breaking up any relation is never an easy task. But giving up that beautiful bond of friendship for a failed relationship might not really be worth it. Sure, once you have broken up with your ex going through the routine mourning period and doing your own stuff to get over the break up is essential.
But however, if lately you have been toying with the idea of calling it a truce, then here are certain ideas which will help you to decide how to break the ice and reach out to that old friend and bring back the lost friendship.
1. Give time to heal The first and foremost way to remain friends with your ex is to give time to both of you to heal and come over the break up. Befriending your ex soon after a breakup might not be a great idea. Do not fool yourself by thinking that you can be back to being great friends immediately as coming back to that comfort level of friendship will take time.
2. Be clear about certain limits Be clear whether you want to have a platonic relation or expecting more than just a plain platonic relation. Do not send them drunken text messages. Make sure you always draw a certain limit which will keep you away from any more heartbreak and tons of hogging down icecream which you surely will regret later.
3. Keep calm around them Getting nervous or anxious will only worsen your problems. Whenever you are around them or are meeting them at a party or a movie, keep your calm. When you decide to go out for a movie or coffee, be calm and don't show any emotions which might indicate something that you don't want them to know.
4. Stop comparing If you are getting along well, infcat great with your ex as a friend do not bring the topic of what went wrong when they were together. This might not go down well with either of you as you might have to confront things that you might not be ready for. Be yourself and keep the relationship at the back burner and try to work on the friendship.
5. Use social media smartly Stop stalking him. Secondly stop tagging him in every post that has a friendship quote or a friendship picture of cute kids. And lastly don't keep on pestering them with messages, give them and yourself some much needed fresh breather.
BDST: 1651 HRS, APR 29, 2015
Edited by: Sharmina Islam, Lifestyle Editor