Don't reach for the tissue box or dial the therapist yet! Something as simple as a getaway may be just the solution to shift things back on track.
A new save-cation, the `transformation vacation' is getting couples -who are struggling with difficulties in their lives -to relook at things between each other. Estranged Hollywood couple Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck whose marriage became grist for the divorce gossip mill after his `nanny' episode, reportedly vacationed recently with Gisele
Bundchen and Tom Brady . The couple was spotted with their kids in the slopes of Montana and now stories are out on how they are apparently working out the details and it seems that nothing has changed between them.Sites reported how the two seemed to look like they were in good spirits after returning and there is also buzz that they might even reconcile. Is the travel break, the saviour that's been under everyone's nose all this while
Any kind of vacation is therapeutic as the brain goes into a calming zone and such a break is of immense help, feel experts.When you change the environment and geography , the chemistry also gets activated, explains Dr Harish Shetty , adding how the earlier communication roadblock gets lifted. The getaway helps you revisit your blocked memories and open sealed memories in an environment where we actually can leave behind resentment and anger. You tend to go there with a fresh mind and allow nature to play games your heart. Couples start to see beyond the anger, he adds.
It's also a timely act before the sour feelings set it, feels psychologist, Seema Hingorrany . By the time couples visit a therapist, there is so much built up mistrust that it takes longer to work out issues. But such a break which happens before all this sets in, is ideal. It allows more room to talk before vengeance or hostility kicks in. It's thus an immediate resource to be used which can help save your heightened emotions. This is also a time to do things that could not be achieved earlier. Affirms Dr Hingorrany , The information overloading we go through ceases, which helps us further to introspect and compartmentalise emotions.
Most couples who have tried this, told me it helped them ponder and many realised a divorce plan was a bad idea. They sit back and just enjoy each other's company , perhaps something they couldn't do in a rushed city life. It thus puts things in perspective and helps couples chalk out strengths and weaknesses and take a proper call.
While such a vacation provides an opportunity to unwind, it also isn't all hunky-dory. There are things to work on, so there has to be a real effort made in that direction, advises Dr Shetty.
Source: Times of India
BDST: 1613 HRS, MAR- 03, 2016
Edited by: Sharmina Islam, Lifestyle Editor
